You Are Not Your Past

Your past doesn't define you, how you are dealing with that past can make or break you. If we dwell on our bad choices they will consume us. Our choice to be with those who hurt us. Now that's not to say that their abusing us was our fault , because it wasn't. We choice to stay with them whether out of fear of retaliation from them via more abuse or death, whether it was because they convinced us we deserved what we got from them, that they convinced us we weren't good enough for anyone else that no one else would want damaged goods. Well I am here to tell you e are not damaged goods, because we are not a commodity, we are human beings and we have the right to expect respect in spite of our choices and our past situations. People will stop beating us up with their hands once we leave, however there are others who will continue to beat us up with their words if we continue to allow them to. We can choose to listen to their harsh words or we can choose to tell them that what you say to others about me I cannot put a stop to, but what you say to me I can put a stop to by refusing to allow them to continue it. We have a choice we can stay and listen or we can refuse to. When we have made a change for the better then our past is just that the past. Stand proud (not arrogantly) stand firm, (not rudely) stand strong, (not bitter) and you will see and feel a difference in yourself even of others refuses to see it. tcc