Being a survivor of domestic abuse myself I can say without a doubt that a victim of abuse never goes back because they love beatings nor that they have no shame as someone recently stated they felt women went back for those reasons, many go back out of fear of what the abuser will do to then or their family if the don't go back. Many are conditioned to the abuse slowly at first then more aggressively and unelss someone has been in such a situation they cannot fully understand what a victim goes through. It took me from 18 to 47 to break free of abusive males and when I did it was such a relief. I have now been alone since 2007 and free of abuse. Abuse isn't about love it's about control over the victim. No one being abused wants it or deserves it. They need to know their worth because the abuser has convinced them that they have no worth. Not all can get out fast or easy sometimes it takes planning and sometimes it takes running. tcc
