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Saturday, January 31, 2015

Don't Blame The Victim/Survivor...

Women who are with abusive men and men with abusive women usually didn't know in the beginning that he/she was an abuser. They put on a sweet persona making you believe they are someone they aren't. They start out being kind, loving, gentle then one day their true colors appear in the for of verbal assaults at first then to physical ones usually. They tell them they are nothing, no one else will want someone like her, that she isn't worth anything, that she is hair brained and so much more. They brain wash them and leave them feeling worthless then they turn around and tell them. How wonderful they are, how smart they are then when they get mad its back to the assaults. It keeps you off track, unsure of who she even is. They also usually threaten them with more violence wither on them or a loved one. They keep you from family and friends. The woman/man is left in a state of emotional stress, despair, low,self esteem and much more. It can take years for a woman/man to finally get away not because she/he doesn't want free but because she/he is convinced the abuser is right about them and more often because they are terrified. It took me years and for God to deliver me from abusive relationships/marriages, but I was finally freed in 2007. From the time I was 18 until I was 47 I was either married or in a relationship and most were physically abusive except for my children's dad he never hit me there were other issues in that situation. I decided it is better to be alone than to be with the wrong one for even a minute. Perhaps someday God has someone for me. I've been on my own just me and God since 2007. Victims in an abusive relationship aren't bad people just confused and need God to help to them get out. Its not their fault the mam/woman is abusive but they do need to get out as not to enable him to continue to be abusive to her by staying...