Abuse Affects You In More Ways Than You Most Would Think

Abuse affects you in more ways than you most would think, it can affect you mentally, physically (be it actually hitting you or physically in that you become sick vomiting, pains etc from the abuse even if not being hit), emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc It wreaks havoc on you in so many ways it can also affect your kids even if they aren't being hit. It can cause them the same pains as above. It can also affect your relationship with your children/family if you stay and stay they can come to resent you and in some cases hate you and disrespect you because you didn't respect yourself enough to get out and stay out. The physical if being hit, it can leave you with broken bones, bruises, and organ issues from the force of the hitting, the bruises and bones many heal but the emotional affects are there long after the body heals if he/she doesn't kill you first. The other physical/emotional/mental issues can cause vomiting, night terrors, night sweats, anxiety, panic attacks, brokenness in your emotions, uncontrollable crying when you least expect it, anger from you at others even when they haven't done anything wrong. The list goes on and on in how it can affect you, your mind, your body, your future relationships, your relationships with family and/or friends, etc Abuse affects more than just you....  Trust me it can and does happen in the above ways I have described.  tcc Revised version

Not All Abusers Are Spouses And/Or Boyfriends/Girlfriends

Not all abusers are spouses and/or boyfriends/girlfriends sometimes they can be strangers, family or friends and not all abuses is physical, I can be verbal, emotional or mental abuse. Abuse as you see comes in many forms and can be from anyone anywhere anytime so beware...

Do You Feel Alone, Insecure, Mislead, Hurt, Angry, Disappointed, Afraid, Dismayed, etc? If You Said Yes, You're Not Alone...

Do you feel alone, insecure, mislead, hurt, angry, disappointed, afraid, dismayed, etc? If you I want you to know that you are not alone. There are so many more inn this world that feel as you do even when you feel you must be the only one feeling like that. Domestic violence knows no social boundaries, no economic boundaries, it can affect anyone in any country in any town and even in any church. It has no preference and no shame. Domestic violence is such an ugly part of our society today and has been for decades upon decades. It is sad that it happens so frequently and many if not all times the victim will try to justify the abuse as being something they said or did. I know I did the same thing every time I was in an abusive relationship/marriage. I made excuse after excuse after excuse instead of seeing it for what it was their angry being transferred through them via abuse to me and it's the same in you or situation as well if you are in fact being abused. We may give them reason to be angry but it in no way is an excuse for them to be abusive. Victims live in torment yet we have to choose to get out when can do so safely and we must choose not to return to that abusive person. You must think enough of yourself to know that you and your children deserve better. also by you or staying in the situation it sets your children up to be abused while there and/or to grow up to be abusive and/or in abusive relationships themselves. I realized this too late and by not only being in abusive relationships/marriages I set a very bad example for my children when I was. I have now been alone per se since 2007 vs being abused. That is not to say I will never be in another relationship/marriage it is just to say I'd rather be alone than abused. It takes courage to get out, but you have it if you dig deep within to find the courage and to get get support from others and to make a plan to get out of the abusive situation.