Do not let the abuse you have endured define you whether you are a male or female being abused. You choose who you are not your abuser, don't let that person convince you that you are unworthy, unattractive, ignorant, unable to make your own decisions, etc. Those plus many other things are what abusers will try to convince you is the truth. They will belittle you and make you feel unworthy of anyone else's love but it is all lies. Those of who were abused and those who are still being abused need to know that they/you are not alone and that you are not the negative things an abuser says. You are better than what they say you were/are, you just have to believe it. If you are being abused, please get a support system of family and friends and make a plan to get yourself and your children out (if you have children) out safely. So again do not let the abuse you endured define you, instead you define who you are and what you will and won't allow in your and your children's lives, relationships. I wish I had chosen better before when my children were younger when I was with their now ex step dad who was abusive. I can change that I was with him and had him around my children, but I can choose to be more careful in whom I allow in my life and that of my children/grandchildren. Be selective and be careful.
By Teresa Causey-Christian tcc
By Teresa Causey-Christian tcc
